One man’s story

I forgot about circumcision for many years and it was not until my late twenties and having found myself unemployed with lots of free time that I began researching this issue.

I am a British born Muslim who was circumcised as a child and I believe I was about 8 years old when it happened although I cannot be sure of the exact age. I remember going to the hospital with my father and elder brother and being given an injection in my buttocks and waking up to find ice cream on the side table.

I only began researching circumcision after a hunch around the age of 17 when studying for my A-levels at college. I came across Mothers against Circumcision and then found NORM-UK and realised I was not alone in my thoughts.

I forgot about circumcision for many years and it was not until my late twenties and having found myself unemployed with lots of free time that I began researching this issue. Soon enough I came across Intact America and Doctors Opposing Circumcision and many Facebook pages as well as YouTube videos. I then discovered that the skin tag on my penis was a result of my circumcision and that this was very much highlighted as one of the harmful complications of circumcision on the website Circumstitions.

I then began printing Intact America factsheets and sending text messages to friends. I began speaking to fathers and anyone who was expecting a baby boy and making visits to see the fathers, funding much of the work from my own pocket. I made visits to a couple of my siblings who were expected to circumcise their boys but sadly their circumcisions went ahead without me knowing and after I had given them the factsheets. I now do a lot of work online targeting parents and keeping a tab locally on who is having children and boys in particular.

On 7th September 2014 I joined the Bloodstained men at a demo outside the Gherkin and met Richard Duncker and Patrick Smyth for the first time although I had had online conversations with Richard previously.

Gherkin demo

My concerns are about America as well as globally and being here in the UK my focus is on the Muslim/Jewish community. My work continues and I will do as much as I can to educate and stop parents from circumcising their baby boys and I truly believe circumcision needs to be abolished.

5 thoughts on “One man’s story”

  1. This will, I hope, be the first of many testimonies from men about their reactions to the cutting of their genitals. Please make contact with us and tell your story.

  2. It was a pleasure to meet you and to protest against the injustice that we have both suffered. I applaud your enlightened attitude, and look forward to future collaborations as we move toward our common goal.

  3. I was circumcised as a baby. I have difficulty feeling sensuous pleasure and difficulty achieving climax.

    Skin can be removed from different parts of the penis. They removed all of what is called the “inner foreskin” and my frenulum. My circumcision scar is right next to the head. All the skin below my head is light brown and without any feeling.

    I have learned that other men who are circumcised correctly have some erogenous skin near the head which brings a high degree of pleasure. It is usually paler in color.

    Without this, deeply enjoyable inner foreskin, stimulation of the head alone gives an intense, almost-burning, feeling, like a restless itch that drives me to want to get six over with. If I don’t control myself, it causes me to fuck hard and fast. The penis is like an orchestra. The head is most intense and the most noticeable, but not the most pleasurable or erogenous. The pleasure part was removed and left me a cripple.

    Furthermore, I think the frenulum is the “trigger” for climax for most men, and they removed mine. Other men say it is the best feeling part.

    When they circumcised me they did leave about 1/4 inch of frenulum so I know that it is the best feeling part. There is just enough left to give me a sample of what I am missing. But when they sewed me up, they twisted the skin on the shaft so that little bit of frenulum that is left is located on the side of my shaft and it does not get direct contact when having intercourse.

    It takes me about an hour to achieve orgasm. I have never felt a connection between my penis and my climax center. It’s like the wire has been cut and I have to “muscle-out” a climax. In order to finally achieve a climax I have to work up all my muscles, flexing and forcing my prostate to climax. It’s more like an athletic feat.

    I can touch my penis in every way imaginable for hours and never have a climax. I must engage my muscles and force it to happen. In all my life, with many years of happiness, of sexual excitement, horniness, being in love, and high testosterone, I have never been able to have a natural climax. I have to force my prostate to go off by flexing muscles in that region.

    Another problem is that they cut the main artery on the top of my penis. Because they twisted the skin before sewing it up, the artery does not meet-up and my body developed a massive series of spider veins to try and connect the blood flow of the severed artery. This area of spider veins is very tender and painful. If I use a restriction device to maintain my erection, the spider veins burst and bleed. I think it is critical to match the severed artery back up.

    I believe in circumcision, but it can be done in many ways. Some men have good circumcisions. Some are destroyed from ever knowing full pleasure like myself. I would rather have had my ear cut off. Sometimes I would like to shoot a bullet into the hand of the doctor who did it to me so he could never do it to anyone else again. But what bothers me most is that some doctors continue to circumcise the wrong way to this day.

    Part of the reason that the word does not get out is because most anti-circ people are absolutists and are only totally against circumcision. And then when some men do need a circumcision they get a bad job. The doctors need to understand that the erogenous zones should not be removed even if a guy needs to be circumcised. A man can be circumcised and have all the erogenous tissue intact. But this is rarely the case.

    I have been rejected for trying to share this conversation. Both family and doctors say that circumcision has been practiced for thousands of years and those who complain have a psychological problem. I know that I am right because friends have let me touch their penises and the parts that they say feel the best are parts that have been removed from myself.

    I know what it is like to find release. But I will live my life on this earth never knowing what it feels like to experience full pleasure with a partner or by myself.

  4. [I added on to the story I just sent]

    I was circumcised as a baby. I have difficulty feeling sensuous pleasure and difficulty achieving climax.

    Skin can be removed from different parts of the penis. They removed all of what is called the “inner foreskin” and my frenulum. This is called a “total circumcision”. My circumcision scar is right next to the head. All the skin below my head is light brown and without any feeling.

    I have learned that other men who are circumcised correctly have some erogenous skin near the head which brings a high degree of pleasure. It is usually paler in color.

    Without this deeply enjoyable inner foreskin, stimulation of the head alone gives an intense, almost-burning, feeling, like a restless itch that drives me to want to get sex over with. If I don’t control myself, it causes me to fuck hard and fast.

    The penis is like an orchestra. The head is most intense and the most noticeable, but not the most pleasurable or erogenous. The pleasure part was removed and left me a cripple.

    I can testify that although my head (glans) is uncovered I can retain a very high state of sensitivity by wearing a jockstrap every day. It prevents rubbing and keeps the moisture level high. My head can feel so much intense sensation that it can be too sensitive, and with the pleasure parts removed, stimulation only on the glans can almost make me pee.

    So I question the value of foreskin restoration. Covering your head can make it more sensitive. But stretching out the unfeeling shaft skin cannot give you the feelings that come only from the unique tissue that was removed.

    Furthermore, I think the frenulum is the “trigger” for climax for most men, and they removed mine. Other men say it is the best feeling part.

    When they circumcised me they did leave about 1/4 inch of frenulum so I know that it is the best feeling part. There is just enough left to give me a sample of what I am missing. But when they sewed me up, they twisted the skin on the shaft so that little bit of frenulum that is left is located on the side of my shaft and it does not get direct contact when having intercourse.

    It takes me about an hour to achieve orgasm. I have never felt a connection between my penis and my climax center. It’s like the wire has been cut and I have to “muscle-out” a climax. In order to finally achieve a climax I have to work up all my muscles, flexing and forcing my prostate to climax. It’s more like an athletic feat.

    I can touch my penis in every way imaginable for hours and never have a climax. I must engage my muscles and force it to happen. In all my life, with many years of happiness, of sexual excitement, horniness, being in love, and high testosterone, I have never been able to have a natural climax. I have to force my prostate to go off by flexing muscles in that region.

    Another problem is that they cut the main artery on the top of my penis. Because they twisted the skin before sewing it up, the artery does not meet-up and my body developed a massive series of spider veins to try and connect the blood flow of the severed artery. This area of spider veins is very tender and painful. If I use a restriction device to maintain my erection, the spider veins burst and bleed. I think it is critical to match the severed artery back up.

    I believe in circumcision, but it can be done in many ways. Some men have good circumcisions. Some are destroyed from ever knowing full pleasure like myself. I would rather have had my ear cut off. Sometimes I would like to shoot a bullet into the hand of the doctor who did it to me so he could never do it to anyone else again. But what bothers me most is that some doctors continue to circumcise the wrong way to this day.

    Part of the reason that the word does not get out is because most anti-circ people are absolutists and are only totally against circumcision. And then when some men do need a circumcision they get a bad job. The doctors need to understand that the erogenous zones should not be removed even if a guy needs to be circumcised. A man can be circumcised and have all the erogenous tissue intact. But this is rarely the case.

    I think that most circumcised men still have some of the erogenous “inner foreskin” and frenulum left; enough so that sex feels like pleasure to them, rather than just a contest. I think it would be ideal to remove only a little bit of skin from the shaft, and it should be removed from the non-feeling “outer foreskin”. And the artery should be lined-up and reconnected.

    I have heard that the circumcision scar and all the veins heal better and look better when circumcision is done in infancy. We should not pretend that is not true.

    I have several friends who are not circumcised and have unretractable foreskins. Or they tear and bleed. It is wrong to say that they can be stretched. You cannot make rules for anybody else because we are all different. Some guys have small penises with tiny openings in their foreskins. But their penises swell to unbelievable sizes when erect. There is no way the foreskin could ever pull back over their big glans without ripping and hemorrhaging.

    I have been rejected for trying to share this conversation. Both family and doctors say that circumcision has been practiced for thousands of years and those who complain have a psychological problem. I know that I am right because friends have let me touch their penises and the parts that they say feel the best are parts that have been removed from myself.

    I know what it is like to find ecstatic release. But the process of trying to find a climax is a frustrating experience. And that’s how my partners have experienced it. I will live my life on this earth never knowing what it feels like to experience full pleasure with a partner or by myself.

    I think that there are many men who have had “total circumcisions” like myself, who have no idea that they are not experiencing the pleasure that most men feel. You cannot know what you are missing if you have never known it. They are probably the hard-fast fuckers who show more drive than pleasure, fighting harder to get to the “goal post”, and having trouble finding it.

  5. I also was circumcised as a baby and had my frenulum and most of my inner foreskin removed. Throughout my life I had painful erections because my outer skin was very tight when erect.
    I stumbled onto a web site for foreskin restoration call TLC Tugger. com and after a lot of research I began tugging to get my foreskin back or at least as much as I could. I’ve been restoring for almost 7 years , yes it’s a very slow process, but results are worth it. One of the first things that will happen is after you have kept your glans covered for a time the brown dry cracked skin on the head of your penis peels away revealing a new pink and more sensitive mucous membranes. The idea behind tugging is you are applying tension to your outer and inner foreskin and over time the skin cells divide over and over to grow more skin. You’re not strechting your skin you are growing more skin, the same as when we get fat the tension on the skin grows new skin.
    After 7 years my foreskin covers my flaccid penis most of the time and my goal is to have it covered 100% of the time without having to wear any type of device. Having full coverage, full time protects my now sensitive glans from rubbing on my clothing and keeps it moist the way God designed it.
    My wife says she feels the wrinkled skin during intercousre as my penis moves slowly more in and out which rubs on her G spot. My wife has supported me through this whole process and the benifits are paying off.

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